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My husband and I took this full course 30 years ago.and I am just completing teaching it to some young mothers. After adding the Word of God to it's teachings, it becomes the most wonderful communication avenue in the world. It not only helps with children, but with any communication at any age. I cannot recommend it more highly.
This method works great, and why not. and in retrospect I can really see the negative effect it had on the kids. That became a vicous cycle of course. Apparently the Catholic church uses aspects of the Gordon Method in pre-marital counseling to improve communication. Buy this book and apply it. It's tough to break old communication habits, but the payback is huge.I'm a father of two daughters, 9 and 5, and have found that this works great with both. It's basic (but not commonly applied) psychology and communication skills. It tore them down and they didn't come to me when they had a problem.
It's brought us closer together and they trust me with their problems (they solve their own problems with this method) and I expect that will continue through all the tough things kids face growing up (not to mention sharing in the joys and victories).This method raises kids self-esteem by helping them help themselves, and it helps you get your way, too, with simple but effective communication techniques.This method can be applied to any relationship and I was in fact drawn to this book after reading Leader Effectiveness Training for my job. Also a fantastic, highly recommended book.My previous discipline "technique" made liberal use of threats and shouting (never hitting or spanking). Gordon Training Intl also has a DVD Family Set available on-line, but the book should suffice for most, if you put your heart into applying the concepts. It will help make the world a much better place.
The truth is that biblical discipline is to be administered in love, an ideal for which there is no better substitute. Gordon's disdain for tradition shows as well. Gordon refers to in his book. Gordon's ideas for kids to solve their own problems and be included in decision-making.
Though I'll give credit to Dr. I like the idea to use "I" instead of "you". I love her more than anything (except God and hubby) and she's a wonderfully happy child and yes, I've spanked her. And we're doing great with spankings. His few and far between knocks to religion are all too trite for me at this point, but I think Dr.
And most importantly, telling the child you love him. No substitute will do. That means no wrath while punishing, explaining to the child (even a 2 year old) what he did wrong, hearing his apology, and having total control over the situation. But not the satirical image of spanking that Dr. The image he portrays is of discipline is anger, with a parent out of control angrily beating a child for punishment.
Granted the book is 40 years old now. While I admire the intentions and efforts of the author and his colleagues, I have to disagree with most of his premise. Either Dr. Gordon is ignorant of this biblical advice, which would be my guess, or he is deliberately distorting the truth to make a point.
Gordon for some techniques I try after reading in his book. Some of which were the exact same as what I learned in pre-marital counseling classes, by the way, general relational/psychological advice. I will practice that as well.
I have to ask why.Having a 2-year old, I am in the prime time to affect my daughter's moral outlook with my choice of disciplinary training. But as far as never "preaching" I weep for the generation who doesn't understand right from wrong. While this was sadly true in our society for many decades, it's out of date for these times.
But more importantly, in fact every biblical reference about child discipline will tell you to love the child while you are punishing. As well as Dr. Sadly, just turn on the news to see the results of a God-less society.
This book contained lots of knowledge-and I say this even though I have degrees in Business Adm, and psychology. The only probelm is that I find the tecniques more approriate for childrne older than 8-10. Goo dnews is that all the information is applicaple to your other relations as well
This book is an excellent way to break through the strife that comes along with parenting. Gentle, logical and easy to read. It can have a profound influence on your relationships, family or otherwise, in less than the time takes to read the entire book.You will enjoy being a parent again and be forever transformed. You and your children will love, respect and admire each other even more than you could ever have imagined.
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